“If you were trapped in a foxhole and could only have one person in it with you to help you get out, who would you want that to be?”
I’ve heard this question asked by many interviewers to many people from different walks of life. Michael Kay of the YES network always asks this question during the Hit & Run segment of CenterStage and the answers are not as consistent as you might think. Male pro athlete’s tend to answer the same way but some of the answers are pretty funny. They also give you clear perspective of who is important in their lives and for what reason.
I recently watched Michael interview Christopher Russo and I posed the question to myself when the segment came up and it was a no-brainer for me.
My wife Liz is, without question, the wisest person that I know. The wisdom that God has poured into her comes from being a preacher’s kid, many years of being a single mother of 3 kids and figuring life out as she went along, while placing God first. There are many smart and accomplished people who have lived in this world but my wife is the wisest person that God ever placed in my life. Wisdom is a gift from God and to me having wisdom means “learning from all experiences throughout your life and then lovingly sharing what you’ve learned with those that God has placed in your life”. Wisdom not only adds value, but it also protects, it insures, it validates, it sustains, it strengthens and it endures. It is not jealous, hesitant or selfish.” When a person lovingly shares their wisdom, they unknowingly validate their own Wisdom and they also please God.
I can’t count the number of times where my wife will come to me with a question about something and she already has the answer, but she still asks for direction on it. I give her an answer and we go on our way. Days or weeks later I end up having some encounter that not only validates how wrong my answer was but how right her’s was in the first place. As men, we can be extremely prideful as we go through life… afraid of being wrong or not knowing the answers. Some of us feel that “having all of the answers” somehow validates us as “men” and that couldn’t be more wrong. God placed your wife in your life for a reason… not to stand behind you but to stand beside you, to make you wiser.
I can’t imagine where I’d be as a man without my wife and her wisdom in my life. I also can imagine the man I have yet to become by having my wife in my life. Married men, please tap into your wives and the wisdom God has poured into her. God didn’t place her in your lives simply to bear your children or for show. God reserved that extra spot in the foxhole just for her.