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In The Foxhole

“If you were trapped in a foxhole and could only have one person in it with you to help you get out, who would you want that to be?”

I’ve heard this question asked by many interviewers to many people from different walks of life. Michael Kay of the YES network always asks this question during the Hit & Run segment of CenterStage and the answers are not as consistent as you might think. Male pro athlete’s tend to answer the same way but some of the answers are pretty funny. They also give you clear perspective of who is important in their lives and for what reason.

I recently watched Michael interview Christopher Russo and I posed the question to myself when the segment came up and it was a no-brainer for me.

My wife Liz is, without question, the wisest person that I know. The wisdom that God has poured into her comes from being a preacher’s kid, many years of being a single mother of 3 kids and figuring life out as she went along, while placing God first. There are many smart and accomplished people who have lived in this world but my wife is the wisest person that God ever placed in my life. Wisdom is a gift from God and to me having wisdom means “learning from all experiences throughout your life and then lovingly sharing what you’ve learned with those that God has placed in your life”. Wisdom not only adds value, but it also protects, it insures, it validates, it sustains, it strengthens and it endures. It is not jealous, hesitant or selfish.” When a person lovingly shares their wisdom, they unknowingly validate their own Wisdom and they also please God.

I can’t count the number of times where my wife will come to me with a question about something and she already has the answer, but she still asks for direction on it. I give her an answer and we go on our way. Days or weeks later I end up having some encounter that not only validates how wrong my answer was but how right her’s was in the first place. As men, we can be extremely prideful as we go through life… afraid of being wrong or not knowing the answers. Some of us feel that “having all of the answers” somehow validates us as “men” and that couldn’t be more wrong. God placed your wife in your life for a reason… not to stand behind you but to stand beside you, to make you wiser.

I can’t imagine where I’d be as a man without my wife and her wisdom in my life. I also can imagine the man I have yet to become by having my wife in my life. Married men, please tap into your wives and the wisdom God has poured into her. God didn’t place her in your lives simply to bear your children or for show. God reserved that extra spot in the foxhole just for her.

Book of the Month


Craig Groeschel is, without a doubt, my favorite speaker on the subject of Christ, Christianity and Life in general. I got this book for free two years ago and have put it in my backpack several times to take to work to read on my lunch break. I finally opened it up this weekend and it’s a phenomenal read.

Craig is not only open and honest about his own life but he’s very entertaining… never taking himself too seriously but also not forgetting what the purpose of “Fight” truly is.

FIGHT: Winning The Battles That Matter Most, written by Craig Groeschel

Don’t Give Up Your Goodness

“A man saw a bug floundering around in the water. He decided to save it by stretching out his finger, but the bug stung him. The man still tried to get the bug out of the water, but it stung him again. On seeing this, his friend told him to stop saving the bug that kept stinging him. But the man said: “It is the nature of this bug to sting. It is my nature to love. Why should I give up my nature to love just because it is the nature of this bug to sting?” Unknown Author

Here comes my favorite line that I love to type out in big, bold letters… I love God. I’m one who tries very hard to avoid discussion about Politics, Religion and whether or not kids should be spanked, but, I’m never embarrassed about who God is in my life. I’ve been in some dark places and  I know that it’s only through God’s grace that I’ve been pulled out of them. There have been numerous people who’ve walked into my life at the right time, on multiple occasions, who’ve helped me gather myself and were instrumental in pulling me out of those dark times. Most of these dark periods were self-introduced but the lessons provided by them were priceless. To borrow a line from NBA legend Allen Iverson, “I’ve made a million mistakes in my life, but if it hadn’t been for those special people sent into my life, I would have made two million.”

I can’t imagine where I’d be in life today if the people that I’ve wronged had turned their back on me, in spite of how I’ve hurt them. I’ll take it a step further for those who are still reading… I can’t imagine where I’d be today if God decided to turn his back on me. I chose many rugged paths through my life, despite there being a smoother, much easier path and God’s warning signs and flashing signals. It’s in my nature to go at it alone, to think I have the answer and know what path is easiest for me. There are endless times where I’ve pushed His helping hand away and ignored what was actually best for me. But, He’s always forgiven me, shown me grace and pulled me out of the darkest places, in spite of me deciding to ignore Him time after time. Who wouldn’t want someone in their corner that loves unconditionally and will continue to do for you, even when you don’t deserve it?

We are both the helping-hand and the bug in this story… the question is, which one would you want to most be remembered as?

God Bless!

How do you eat an elephant…

I’ve never been shy about the fact that I’m a spiritual man… I believe in God, Heaven, loving my neighbor and all of the “taboo” things that come with Christianity. It has cost me some friendships, for sure… but I’ve gained so much more in terms of “family” and actual things that matter since I started to follow God’s plan for my life.

Over the last month I’ve faced quite a few spiritual, personal and professional trials. If I were still walking in the world and allowing society to determine my value, I’d have long been defeated. I’d have laid down my weapon and given in… “drank the cool-aid” as the world loves to say about people who decide to follow God. If you know me, you know that there are three things I never debate about socially or throw to the wind in a group setting… Politics, Religion and my relationship with my Fiancée. But this morning, I’m feeling a little daring… because lately, the walk I’ve been on has really been a challenging one and I want everyone to know what it takes to defeat that little voice in your head (The enemy) when you can hear them telling you 24/7 that you’re not good enough.

Please forgive me for being a little transparent, it’s new territory for me. For the last month, I’ve felt “less than zero”… like I have less than zero value and that I bring nothing, in terms of value, to others lives. I wasn’t raised with this mindset so I knew something was wrong. I started to think back to when I was younger and I made decisions that were “unpopular” to people around me and how they reacted when I told them my plans. True friends stuck it out with me, cautiously supportive, but walking through the decisions with me. Those who ended up not being true friends just walked away… but not before telling me how I was going to fail and end up losing.

We have so many daily reminders of what “success” is supposed to look like through the eyes of the world. Cars, money, jewelry, large bank accounts… all things that, in the grand scheme of things, we see the rich and famous take for granted everyday. It’s funny how most people who aren’t wealthy spend their lives chasing the dreams of the rich and famous and the rich and famous spend their’s chasing down a simpler, more balanced life. Living proof that “the world” has no idea what true happiness is or what it looks like. And it’s all because their vision is blurred and distorted… they aren’t viewing life with loving eyes and hearts. Things matter, where people don’t… and that’s sad.

The enemy never wants you to be happy, because they have no glory in seeing you win. There’s no reward for them in your happiness. As much as I love God, I let some things come into my heart that allowed me to lose focus on what’s important. “Things” are not important… where I’ve been is not important… what I “desire” is not important… my relationship with God and my family is important. Helping others and seeking no reward is important. George Steinbrenner once said, “If you do something for someone and more than you and that person know about it, it was done for the wrong reasons.”

Changing lives should be the priority of everyone walking this earth. Wanting things isn’t wrong at all but it derails us from the bigger destiny that awaits us. “Desire” can cause us to become self-indulged and forget that we were put on this earth for reasons other than to serve ourselves, to chase unsafe or unrealistic dreams or to sulk when we don’t see those things in our immediate future. God didn’t promise us “things”, he promised us eternal life if we only follow Him. He doesn’t do things on our time, He does them on His own… which we should be grateful for. If He didn’t, we’d lose sight of what’s truly important and forget how He designed us to tackle the tough obstacles in our lives…

one bite at a time.

For Humanity…

“Be ashamed to die until you have won some victory for humanity.” – Horace Mann

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