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In The Foxhole

“If you were trapped in a foxhole and could only have one person in it with you to help you get out, who would you want that to be?”

I’ve heard this question asked by many interviewers to many people from different walks of life. Michael Kay of the YES network always asks this question during the Hit & Run segment of CenterStage and the answers are not as consistent as you might think. Male pro athlete’s tend to answer the same way but some of the answers are pretty funny. They also give you clear perspective of who is important in their lives and for what reason.

I recently watched Michael interview Christopher Russo and I posed the question to myself when the segment came up and it was a no-brainer for me.

StraightOuttaTheRoc
My wife Liz is, without question, the wisest person that I know. The wisdom that God has poured into her comes from being a preacher’s kid, many years of being a single mother of 3 kids and figuring life out as she went along, while placing God first. There are many smart and accomplished people who have lived in this world but my wife is the wisest person that God ever placed in my life. Wisdom is a gift from God and to me having wisdom means “learning from all experiences throughout your life and then lovingly sharing what you’ve learned with those that God has placed in your life”. Wisdom not only adds value, but it also protects, it insures, it validates, it sustains, it strengthens and it endures. It is not jealous, hesitant or selfish.” When a person lovingly shares their wisdom, they unknowingly validate their own Wisdom and they also please God.

I can’t count the number of times where my wife will come to me with a question about something and she already has the answer, but she still asks for direction on it. I give her an answer and we go on our way. Days or weeks later I end up having some encounter that not only validates how wrong my answer was but how right her’s was in the first place. As men, we can be extremely prideful as we go through life… afraid of being wrong or not knowing the answers. Some of us feel that “having all of the answers” somehow validates us as “men” and that couldn’t be more wrong. God placed your wife in your life for a reason… not to stand behind you but to stand beside you, to make you wiser.

I can’t imagine where I’d be as a man without my wife and her wisdom in my life. I also can imagine the man I have yet to become by having my wife in my life. Married men, please tap into your wives and the wisdom God has poured into her. God didn’t place her in your lives simply to bear your children or for show. God reserved that extra spot in the foxhole just for her.


Don’t Give Up Your Goodness

“A man saw a bug floundering around in the water. He decided to save it by stretching out his finger, but the bug stung him. The man still tried to get the bug out of the water, but it stung him again. On seeing this, his friend told him to stop saving the bug that kept stinging him. But the man said: “It is the nature of this bug to sting. It is my nature to love. Why should I give up my nature to love just because it is the nature of this bug to sting?” Unknown Author

Here comes my favorite line that I love to type out in big, bold letters… I love God. I’m one who tries very hard to avoid discussion about Politics, Religion and whether or not kids should be spanked, but, I’m never embarrassed about who God is in my life. I’ve been in some dark places and  I know that it’s only through God’s grace that I’ve been pulled out of them. There have been numerous people who’ve walked into my life at the right time, on multiple occasions, who’ve helped me gather myself and were instrumental in pulling me out of those dark times. Most of these dark periods were self-introduced but the lessons provided by them were priceless. To borrow a line from NBA legend Allen Iverson, “I’ve made a million mistakes in my life, but if it hadn’t been for those special people sent into my life, I would have made two million.”

I can’t imagine where I’d be in life today if the people that I’ve wronged had turned their back on me, in spite of how I’ve hurt them. I’ll take it a step further for those who are still reading… I can’t imagine where I’d be today if God decided to turn his back on me. I chose many rugged paths through my life, despite there being a smoother, much easier path and God’s warning signs and flashing signals. It’s in my nature to go at it alone, to think I have the answer and know what path is easiest for me. There are endless times where I’ve pushed His helping hand away and ignored what was actually best for me. But, He’s always forgiven me, shown me grace and pulled me out of the darkest places, in spite of me deciding to ignore Him time after time. Who wouldn’t want someone in their corner that loves unconditionally and will continue to do for you, even when you don’t deserve it?

We are both the helping-hand and the bug in this story… the question is, which one would you want to most be remembered as?

God Bless!


The Two Wolves

One evening an old Cherokee told his grandson about a battle that goes on inside people. He said, “My son, the battle is between two “wolves” inside us all.

One is Evil. It is anger, envy, jealousy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego.

The other is Good. It is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion and faith.”

The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather: “Which wolf wins?”

The old Cherokee simply replied, “The one you feed.”

– Unknown Author

Everyday when we wake up and face a new day, we have the power to decide what kind of day we will have and what “attitude” we will carry throughout that day. It’s easy to let others influence us and our attitudes and too often, we get stuck in negative moments and never find our way out… remaining in a “rut”. This usually means that we’ve given something or someone power over us that they shouldn’t have. We also all have the ability to change our attitudes, which will also affect our outlook on every situation we face. Cynics usually have a drab outlook on life… Optimists perch on the Cynic’s shoulders and have a different view of it all.


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